well I already admitted to two of them that I have sinned, so if I don't meet with them again they can go ahead and DF me. I won't be returning their calls. I won't put myself through those questions, no one should have to know the intimate details of my life.
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Should I wait to be questioned by the elders? or take my leave in advance?
by Thinking of Leaving inhi everyone, i recently joined this forum as i'm close to being df.
i am suppose to meet with a judical committee soon but was thinking that i don't want to go through those personal questions that i'm sure the elders would ask.
does anyone know, is it better to just tell the elders before, say like on the phone, that i want to be df and not go through the committee?
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Should I wait to be questioned by the elders? or take my leave in advance?
by Thinking of Leaving inhi everyone, i recently joined this forum as i'm close to being df.
i am suppose to meet with a judical committee soon but was thinking that i don't want to go through those personal questions that i'm sure the elders would ask.
does anyone know, is it better to just tell the elders before, say like on the phone, that i want to be df and not go through the committee?
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You know something "no name given", I would not have answered those questions. I've already prepared myself to walk out of that meeting once those questions start. This is truly unbelievable
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Should I wait to be questioned by the elders? or take my leave in advance?
by Thinking of Leaving inhi everyone, i recently joined this forum as i'm close to being df.
i am suppose to meet with a judical committee soon but was thinking that i don't want to go through those personal questions that i'm sure the elders would ask.
does anyone know, is it better to just tell the elders before, say like on the phone, that i want to be df and not go through the committee?
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I cannot believe they would ask those questions but you all would know!!
An elder who I'm assuming is part of my JC called twice yesterday but I didn't answer the phone. I want to tell them to leave me alone and do whatever they want with me but I don't know how to muster up the courage to do this. I'm so nervous. In my heart I know what I want but I've been a JW since I was 15, this is hard.
On a side note, I saw my "worldly" boyfriend yesterday and he gave me three beautiful red roses, a wonderful card and a silver neckace for V Day. I feel so blessed to have found him. I'm in my thirties now and would of been waiting around for the perfect "brother" to do those things for me and maybe he would find me spiritual enough to marry. Let's just say I would of still been waiting. I'm already experiencing a measure of freedom and it's the most wonderful thing imagineable
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Should I wait to be questioned by the elders? or take my leave in advance?
by Thinking of Leaving inhi everyone, i recently joined this forum as i'm close to being df.
i am suppose to meet with a judical committee soon but was thinking that i don't want to go through those personal questions that i'm sure the elders would ask.
does anyone know, is it better to just tell the elders before, say like on the phone, that i want to be df and not go through the committee?
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are you guys absolutely sure they will ask such personal questions like if I enjoyed it or what positions??that just makes meif that's the case then I'm definitely not going to that meeting. I hardly know these elders, they never showed an active interest in me in the first place, now they want me to sit there, in front of total strangers and say what I did wrong???I will only be tempted to tell them it's none of their business and walk out of that meeting, so I should probably tell them over the phone and save them the time. As for the suggestions to lie about being in traffice and all that, I'm sorry but no matter what happens to me, DF or not, I won't lie about anything. I will still try and abide by the Bible's clear admonition to be truthful with one another. Thanks for the suggestions anyhow.
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Should I wait to be questioned by the elders? or take my leave in advance?
by Thinking of Leaving inhi everyone, i recently joined this forum as i'm close to being df.
i am suppose to meet with a judical committee soon but was thinking that i don't want to go through those personal questions that i'm sure the elders would ask.
does anyone know, is it better to just tell the elders before, say like on the phone, that i want to be df and not go through the committee?
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That's a very good point to keep in mind. Thanks
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Should I wait to be questioned by the elders? or take my leave in advance?
by Thinking of Leaving inhi everyone, i recently joined this forum as i'm close to being df.
i am suppose to meet with a judical committee soon but was thinking that i don't want to go through those personal questions that i'm sure the elders would ask.
does anyone know, is it better to just tell the elders before, say like on the phone, that i want to be df and not go through the committee?
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Thinking of Leaving
Only my mother is a JW and in the same congregation as me. Fortunately she's is out of the country for the next few months so won't be here to hear the announcement. She's heartbroken but she just joined the truth after knowing it since she was 17, she's now almost 60. She waited for my dad to die before accepting the truth as my dad was very opposed to her joining. So she took the easy way out, had a nice life in the world and now is a JW. Anyhow my mother will respect my decision, she always has and always will and I know no matter what she will treat me as her daughter. Nothing will change that.
Good point about not using their terms, but I feel it's what they would want to hear to convince themselves I should be DF. Honestly, the elders have been nice to me so far, haven't met the JC yet though, but I've been warned about the type of personal questions that could come up and I don't want to be humuliated. I know that in God's eyes, from reading the Bible on my own, I've sinned. I also know that I do not want to be identified as a witness anymore if I'm to live like a non witness.
I see many are filled with hate for the organization and to be honest I'm not there as yet. But I want to be free for a change, free to make my own decisions and think for myself.
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Should I wait to be questioned by the elders? or take my leave in advance?
by Thinking of Leaving inhi everyone, i recently joined this forum as i'm close to being df.
i am suppose to meet with a judical committee soon but was thinking that i don't want to go through those personal questions that i'm sure the elders would ask.
does anyone know, is it better to just tell the elders before, say like on the phone, that i want to be df and not go through the committee?
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Thanks so much for the advice! I don't feel remorse and have no intention of staying in the truth. I've heard horror stories both from this site and from elsewhere about those dreaded questions. I think that if I met with them I would have to walk out of that meeting because I will refuse to answer questions concerning my personal life. I now know what I need to do. I'm waiting for the PO to contact me to find out when the JC is meeting with me, when he does I'll tell him to go ahead and DF me because I'm unrepentant and do not need 3 elders to tell me such. Thanks again!
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Should I wait to be questioned by the elders? or take my leave in advance?
by Thinking of Leaving inhi everyone, i recently joined this forum as i'm close to being df.
i am suppose to meet with a judical committee soon but was thinking that i don't want to go through those personal questions that i'm sure the elders would ask.
does anyone know, is it better to just tell the elders before, say like on the phone, that i want to be df and not go through the committee?
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Thinking of Leaving
Hi Everyone, I recently joined this forum as I'm close to being DF. I am suppose to meet with a Judical Committee soon but was thinking that I don't want to go through those personal questions that I'm sure the elders would ask.
Does anyone know, is it better to just tell the elders before, say like on the phone, that I want to be DF and not go through the committee? or should I put myself through that ordeal and let them decide to DF me?
Confused:( does anyone have experience with this? please advise
thanks
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Ever been questioned by 3 Elders.....
by freefromjws inwhen i was 17 i got pregnant (omg)!!!
i was in a meeting with 3 elders from my nj cong.
and the questions they asked:.
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I live in Canada. Still trying to figure this site out. Lots of threads to scan through. Can't seem to keep up. I want to read them all at once lol. Thanks for the welcome
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Ever been questioned by 3 Elders.....
by freefromjws inwhen i was 17 i got pregnant (omg)!!!
i was in a meeting with 3 elders from my nj cong.
and the questions they asked:.
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Thinking of Leaving
I was questioned by two already, my first meeting EVER with the elders, for having two worldly relationships.
Now a judicial committee will be forming and I suppose they will question me some more. I don't intend to answer any
intimate questions they have. I'm terrified of my meeting with them but they won't intimidate me. What I did is between
me and God, I know from reading the Bible that sexual immorality is wrong, I don't need to give details on what I did with those men.
I already feel humiliated as it is with the first meeting. They can go ahead and DF me if they like, I really don't care.